We had a disagreement Thursday, but the lovely part was we talked it out. Marie did something that didn't sit right with me, but the next morning I told her how I felt about it and she listened. No defensiveness, no counterarguments or deflections, she just listened and made me feel I was being heard. I didn't make accusations, I just talked calmly and told her how her actions made me feel.
We're far from perfect as a couple. We've had ups and downs and trials and scenes you couldn't put in a movie. Irrational, out of control crazy moments. Down to our last thread of hope or sanity. But that conversation on Thursday was sane and reasonable and mutually respectful, and when it was over I felt as hopeful about us and I ever had. We listened to each other and tried to work it out. We still have all our old problems and hurts, but this time we tried something that worked better. It was a good day.
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