The Women Speak Their Mind

Note: The blog has never shied away from the truth, or at least as much of the truth as I knew and understood at any given moment. I received two very pointed and insightful emails today, the first from my daughter Stephanie and the second from my friend Gretchen. I am printing them whole and unedited, because that's what we do here. We tell the story, even when it is a little messy. I'll post my reply after the poker game breaks up.


Stephanie has left a new comment on your post "Messages in a Cyber Bottle":

Dad--

This may sound bad and I hope you don't take it the wrong way but you and Marie remind me a little of Ross and Rachel from Friends. I don't know if you ever watched the show but there was a time when they took "a break" and Ross had a one night stand. The next morning Rachel came to Ross and said she wanted to get back together (I realize of course that your and Marie's break has been longer than one night but bare with me here). Anyway, they got back together but Rachel later found out about the Ross' big night and they broke up again. He claimed it was ok because they were "on a break", but she said on a break implied that they were still working on things and therefore he shouldn't have been free to see other people. I think that if you and Marie never discussed seeing other people she would be VERY wrong for doing so. You are under the assumption that you are working on things and by all accounts you are trying very hard at it. I think that if she was seeing someone else, even if it's not serious, she should be adult enough to tell you (even if T-mobile drops the call there are other means of communicating) and stop leading you on. If she is moving on with her life, she should allow you to do the same and not keep your hopes up and drag you along. Anyway just my thoughts, I hope I didn't sound as harsh as I think I did.

Me

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Gretchen has left a new comment on your post "Messages in a Cyber Bottle":

As I have read your blog you repeatly mention the dropped calls with T-mobile and it seems it is always at very crucial times in conversations with Marie. I know that all cell services have some dropped calls but you seem to have many. A few weeks ago I was having trouble with a higher than normal number of dropped calls (I am also with T-mobile) over a couple of days. I stopped by a T-mobile store they replaced my SIM card, problem solved. I am back to just the occasional dropped call. I thought maybe the problem was worse when you were staying at your sister's because of their location. I can't but help wonder if Marie is actually ending some calls and letting you think they are dropped. Just a thought. I don't want you to hurt more than you already do but you have to think about it.

It is probably better if you don't post this comment because I certainly don't want to offend Marie or make things worse for you with my comments.

I pray that if you and Marie are meant to be together it will happen.

I think is simply time to show up at her door with flowers and suitcase in hand and ask if you can come home. I know you keep saying it is very complicated and you have many unresolved issues but enough is enough. Simply ask if you can come home to her and work on your issues together while living together as husband and wife.

Gretchen