Saturday, February 27, 2010

News of the Weird

The front page looks increasingly like the cover of the Weekly World Wide News.

Ice storms in Atlanta. A captive killer whale kills its trainer. Catfight among Olympic ski team divas. Champion golfer gives up sport, checks in to sex rehab clinic for three-month stay. President enlists Batboy to spearhead new healthcare effort. Okay I made up the last part. I don't think even Batboy could get healthcare reform passed in Congress. Unless maybe he ate about 800 medical lobbyists.

The news is increasingly weirder and more extreme. There are events everyday that make you tilt your head and go, "huh? Really?" Truth has always been stranger than fiction, and now it is stranger still. Homerun champion Mark McGwire, an admitted steroid user, is now the hitting coach for the St. Louis Cardinals. His brother has written a tell-all book. Andrew Young, former campaign manager for John Edwards, reveals Edwards convinced him to tell the world that he, not Edwards, was the father of Rielle Hunter's love child. The deception and arrogance is stunning, but Young has it all on tape. He too wrote a tell-all book. So many tell-alls have been written, the confessions are no longer shocking. Ted Haggard, minister to millions, is brought down by a scandal involving meth and gay sex, after years of being an outspoken critic of homosexuality, addiction and drug use.

What does all this prove, or say about us? Why do we love train wrecks, the sensational, the extreme. the bizarre and unbelievable? Why do we find it everywhere?

In truth, there is nothing new under the sun. A few thousand years King David of Israel spotted a hot chick bathing on a roof, started a torrid affair with her, and sent her husband to the front to die so he could have her for his own. Ambition and arrogance are nothing new. Great men, and men who craved high places, have risen and fallen since the beginning of time.

As humans we are fascinated by stories like these because we are mystified and horrified by them. We have the innate sense that within ourselves there is the capacity to be loving, kind, wise and hopeful, and there is also the powerful compulsion to be greedy, grasping, vile and selfish. We watch this war play out in the lives of others, and shake our heads at their sad fates, secretly grateful we never ascended so high or got exposed so completely.

There is none righteous, no, not one. We're all capable of terrible things. We've all contemplated them, and had moments we'd die to have exposed. Our lives are messy, unbelievably fleeting, often sordid and sad.

But we have our moments of grace. We have our hopes, our lovely tender thoughts, and each other. The other day our grand daughter Bryce was drawing with crayons on typing paper at the kitchen table. Grandma had made her a snack. Bryce is a delightful, amazing child. Her very presence creates a calm, a hopefulness, a tender quiet in the room. She was talking to us as she drew. "This is me, and momma, and sister. This is a family. Families are always there for you, and they never leave." She is four years old, a wonderment and an unending joy.

Part of our fascination with the news of the weird is relief that our worries our ordinary and the challenges that fragment our families are surmountable and small. We don't have a love child stashed in a half million dollar house. Our spouses have not been eaten by killer whales or hauled up to die at swordpoint. Most of the time, the crises we face are controllable.

And when the wrenching and insurmountable come our way, as they inevitably do, we have our family. And families never leave.

2 comments:

Stephanie said...

Dad--

Good post, nice to have the blog back. Hope all is going well for you. Look out for big waves and earthquakes because apparently the world is ending (according to Kourt).
Ethan just says it's time to eat oatmeal, not too concerned about anything else. And Tom needs to pack still leaves next Friday and he's still shopping for equipment......

Me

Dale Bliss said...

Ethan is right. A hot bowl of oatmeal, liberally sprinkled with brown sugar, is the answer to most of life's problems. The world could end in a minute. But in your last moment before the final conflagration, wouldn't you like to have a mouthful of delicious oatmeal?

This is the Way the Transformation Begins


"Some men see things as they are and say why? I dream things that never were and say "Why not?"
George Bernard Shaw, Robert F. Kennedy


This is the way the transformation begins.
It begins in me.
It begins now.
It begins with small incremental changes and shifts in attitude
it begins with positive action
failing forward
and suddenly I start looking at the world and my place in it in a new way. I speak differently and dress differently and project a different energy, and the world opens up like a glorious pink azalea bush, eight feet tall and blooming like mad.


photo by Kajo123 from the website flickr.com

Good morning!

An engineer builds a bridge and every bolt and weld has to be exactly right; every measure has to be perfect, or the bridge collapses or fails to take its place. Fantastically detailed blueprints have to be laid out. Impact statements have to be filed, sediment has to be studied, years of effort, months of planning, and a man-made marvel rises in the sky. Park somewhere and take a good look at a bridge, and think of all the skill and knowledge and hard honest work it took to create it. Consider how a few thousand years ago we were living in caves.

It is not so with a dream. Some people are remarkable dreamers and dreams spring whole from them, or they can leap up from bed and pages of creative genius flow out of their pen, intricate and perfect. Most of us though are baby dreamers, new at it and tentative to the trust the power of what we wish for.

Start the dream! Whether you want to go to nursing school or college or learn to play the guitar, take a first step, now, even in the wrong direction. Don't wait for the blueprint to come to you, the environmental impact statement, the permits and the 200-page budget and legislative dream approval. Rough it out, sketch it on a napkin, tell a friend, and take action. Your dream begins the moment you step out in first moment of believing, and the result can touch a thousand souls. Listen to Jim Valvano: never give up, never surrender. Believe in the audacity of action and your fantastic potential for change and new opportunity.

The Hawthorne Bridge at sunrise, Portland Oregon. Photo by Joe Collver, from flickr.com
Genuine happiness and success start with an attitude of abundance

Make it a daily practice to begin your day with five minutes of thankfulness. You can even do it in your car on the way to work. Do it in your own way, whether it's thoughtful reflection or a prayer or singing out loud, but focus on your rich, amazing, abundant life.

Feeling grumpy or resentful or worried instead of thankful? Change direction! Consider the incredible gifts you have--mind, body, spirit, senses, your family, your friends, your clothes, your car, and the breakfast you enjoyed this morning. By the standards of 99% of the world, Americans are incredibly, amazingly rich. You truly have no idea how richly blessed you are until you start thinking about it. Even the heart that beats within you and the lungs that breathe your air are an intricate and amazing miracle.

Some of my favorite movies are ones that feature a once-defeated character waking up to an absolutely new day: "It's A Wonderful Life," the various versions of Dicken's "Christmas Carol" and "Groundhog Day." How exhilarating it is for George Bailey to wake up and realize his life isn't over, it's just beginning, and that today truly is a brand new day.


"It's a Wonderful Life"

"It's a Wonderful Life"
George returns home to everything he ever wanted.