Friday, May 28, 2010

We've Only Got a Hundred Years to Live

Contentment makes poor men rich; discontent makes rich men poor.
--Benjamin Franklin


Time is more important than money. The richest man in the world only has 24 hours in a day. The poorest has the same. You can make more money. With a few good choices and a little determination you can double your income but you can't add a minute to the day. Of course we can make changes that allow us to live longer. But the trouble with living longer is that those extra years come at the end, when we're old.

Even so, time IS more important than money. Money is a wonderful thing, certainly. It is opportunity and choices. It is the engine of security and pleasure. It can mean freedom from worry. It can give us mobility and status. Sadly, in our culture more people are enslaved by money and money worries than empowered or liberated. We are a want culture. People are preoccupied by what they don't have, and anxious over the possiblity of losing what they do have. Madison Avenue works hard to create and heighten this anxiety. It sells a lot of products.

If we can find the courage to let go of all our dangerous and destructive preoccupations what stretches out before us is a fabulous abundance of time. We can slow it down by the simple act of appreciation. Our lives are full of unloved moments and unappreciated beauty. We have a wealth of unnoticed blessings, a treasure of untapped potential, a mother lode of talent, opportunity and hope within us.

Mitch Albom wrote a wonderful book, For One More Day, about a man who is given his life back. Every morning, we are given our lives back. We can do good or ill. We can connect and heal wounds. We can grow and develop our strengths, explore our purpose and our dreams. Or we can waste the time altogether. We can crawl into a bottle, or merely continue the same old habits that keep us stuck and bored and uninspired. The time passes either way.

One of these mornings soon I ought to begin to live more intentionally. What if I began the day prayerfully, reflectively, earnestly? What if did something other than fire up the computer and play low stakes poker and drown my synapses in a warm bath of distraction? Tom Robbins once said, "We are put on this earth to enlarge the soul and light up the brain." Most days, I don't do anything like that. Most days, I'm just wasting time. Like Andy Dufresne says in the Shawshank Redemption, we have to make a choice: "Get busy living or get busy dying." We ought to give some thought to this choice, but most of us are too busy.

2 comments:

Stephanie said...

Dad--

I love the Shawshank movie. Although I've never actually finished it, I always fall asleep when they play it on TNT at night. I hope to one day complete it. I'd like to live my life with more purpose too, but right now I think my purpose it to make the kids happy and that's ok with me. Good news today....Tom found out that he has been granted an extension on his emergency leave! He gets to stay for an extra seven days. So we are now almost guaranteed that he will get to be here for delivery. We have our next appointment on Tuesday and our doctor told us he couldn't social induce until I was 39 weeks. I hit 39 weeks on Monday or Tuesday so we should be able to induce either Tuesday after our early morning appointment or Wednesday. So excited!

Me

Dale Bliss said...

Steff--

Happy birthday! Great news about Tom's extension. You may yet have this baby on June 1. It's 9:16 right now and you are nine minutes old.

Love,

Dad

This is the Way the Transformation Begins


"Some men see things as they are and say why? I dream things that never were and say "Why not?"
George Bernard Shaw, Robert F. Kennedy


This is the way the transformation begins.
It begins in me.
It begins now.
It begins with small incremental changes and shifts in attitude
it begins with positive action
failing forward
and suddenly I start looking at the world and my place in it in a new way. I speak differently and dress differently and project a different energy, and the world opens up like a glorious pink azalea bush, eight feet tall and blooming like mad.


photo by Kajo123 from the website flickr.com

Good morning!

An engineer builds a bridge and every bolt and weld has to be exactly right; every measure has to be perfect, or the bridge collapses or fails to take its place. Fantastically detailed blueprints have to be laid out. Impact statements have to be filed, sediment has to be studied, years of effort, months of planning, and a man-made marvel rises in the sky. Park somewhere and take a good look at a bridge, and think of all the skill and knowledge and hard honest work it took to create it. Consider how a few thousand years ago we were living in caves.

It is not so with a dream. Some people are remarkable dreamers and dreams spring whole from them, or they can leap up from bed and pages of creative genius flow out of their pen, intricate and perfect. Most of us though are baby dreamers, new at it and tentative to the trust the power of what we wish for.

Start the dream! Whether you want to go to nursing school or college or learn to play the guitar, take a first step, now, even in the wrong direction. Don't wait for the blueprint to come to you, the environmental impact statement, the permits and the 200-page budget and legislative dream approval. Rough it out, sketch it on a napkin, tell a friend, and take action. Your dream begins the moment you step out in first moment of believing, and the result can touch a thousand souls. Listen to Jim Valvano: never give up, never surrender. Believe in the audacity of action and your fantastic potential for change and new opportunity.

The Hawthorne Bridge at sunrise, Portland Oregon. Photo by Joe Collver, from flickr.com
Genuine happiness and success start with an attitude of abundance

Make it a daily practice to begin your day with five minutes of thankfulness. You can even do it in your car on the way to work. Do it in your own way, whether it's thoughtful reflection or a prayer or singing out loud, but focus on your rich, amazing, abundant life.

Feeling grumpy or resentful or worried instead of thankful? Change direction! Consider the incredible gifts you have--mind, body, spirit, senses, your family, your friends, your clothes, your car, and the breakfast you enjoyed this morning. By the standards of 99% of the world, Americans are incredibly, amazingly rich. You truly have no idea how richly blessed you are until you start thinking about it. Even the heart that beats within you and the lungs that breathe your air are an intricate and amazing miracle.

Some of my favorite movies are ones that feature a once-defeated character waking up to an absolutely new day: "It's A Wonderful Life," the various versions of Dicken's "Christmas Carol" and "Groundhog Day." How exhilarating it is for George Bailey to wake up and realize his life isn't over, it's just beginning, and that today truly is a brand new day.


"It's a Wonderful Life"

"It's a Wonderful Life"
George returns home to everything he ever wanted.