Saturday, June 5, 2010

Here in the Real World

What with all my expectations long abandoned
And a future I no longer saw my hand in
How I found you is beyond my understanding
My stunning mystery companion

Jackson Browne, "My Stunning Mystery Companion"

The best news is that the genuinely good news is right here at home. We have another new grandbaby, Elizabeth Applegate, born June 2nd at Yakima Memorial Hospital, eight pounds, nineteen and three-quarter inches, pink and healthy and utterly beautiful.

Marie and I were talking today about the many blessings in our life and the rock solid source of our abiding happiness. We are content with simple things and small blessings. We're delighted by the twenty dollar black vinyl couch we bought at a garage sale. It's long and well-built and comfortable, cozy in our little living room. We carted it home last fall on the trunk of the Vista Cruiser, tied down with ropes, crawling along on the side streets. We passed two cops parked on a cul-de-sac on the way home and they just laughed. Last week in Crescent City we found a sturdy ochre bookcase for the bedroom for a dollar. It just fit in the back seat for the trip home, and the color perfectly compliments the colors in the painting next to the bedroom window, a priceless original crafted by Marie's daughter Amber when she was in high school. I deliberately left the dime-sized yellow $1 sticker from the sale on the top shelf, a bit of whimsy, a reminder of the joy of bargains and finds. Yeah, it was a dollar. So what? Also on the top shelf is a picture of us together, at Marie's company Christmas party a few years ago. She looks juicy in a green velvet dress. I'm holding her close, incredibly proud to do so.

Tonight we're meeting Marie's daugher Ashley and her two sparkling little girls, Mackenzie and Bryce, at The Starlight Parade downtown. This afternoon were having barbequed burgers and coleslaw at a community benefit for SOLV at New Seasons Grocery and then we're playing golf, nine holes at Frontier out in Canby, just a little out of the way pitch-and-putt carved out of a farmer's field a few miles out of town. We'll probably stop at Fir Point Farms for pie and ice cream on the way home. Marie looks adorable in her new outfit, cute capri pants and a tank top she bought at Wal Mart on the Memorial Weekend visit to her mom's. The Real Housewives of New York City in their thousand dollar designer duds couldn't look more glamorous or desirable than she does swinging her pink and lavender golf clubs at the eight-dollar-a-round pitch-and-putt. They simply couldn't.

And they couldn't be having a better time than we are today. It's a joyous, simple day, seventy-two degrees and sunny, a top-down day cruising in the Vista Cruiser. You couldn't have better time at the most exclusive resort in the world.

1 comment:

Stephanie said...

Dad--

Garage sale finds are awesome! I used to go shopping at them but Tom says I now have too much crap (he's right just don't tell him I said that ) so I've stopped at least until we move to a bigger house. I miss golfing, even though I was terrible at it. Hope to see you soon.

Me

And yes Lizzie was pink and perfect!!! But what else would you expect with two awesome parents like me and Tom?

This is the Way the Transformation Begins


"Some men see things as they are and say why? I dream things that never were and say "Why not?"
George Bernard Shaw, Robert F. Kennedy


This is the way the transformation begins.
It begins in me.
It begins now.
It begins with small incremental changes and shifts in attitude
it begins with positive action
failing forward
and suddenly I start looking at the world and my place in it in a new way. I speak differently and dress differently and project a different energy, and the world opens up like a glorious pink azalea bush, eight feet tall and blooming like mad.


photo by Kajo123 from the website flickr.com

Good morning!

An engineer builds a bridge and every bolt and weld has to be exactly right; every measure has to be perfect, or the bridge collapses or fails to take its place. Fantastically detailed blueprints have to be laid out. Impact statements have to be filed, sediment has to be studied, years of effort, months of planning, and a man-made marvel rises in the sky. Park somewhere and take a good look at a bridge, and think of all the skill and knowledge and hard honest work it took to create it. Consider how a few thousand years ago we were living in caves.

It is not so with a dream. Some people are remarkable dreamers and dreams spring whole from them, or they can leap up from bed and pages of creative genius flow out of their pen, intricate and perfect. Most of us though are baby dreamers, new at it and tentative to the trust the power of what we wish for.

Start the dream! Whether you want to go to nursing school or college or learn to play the guitar, take a first step, now, even in the wrong direction. Don't wait for the blueprint to come to you, the environmental impact statement, the permits and the 200-page budget and legislative dream approval. Rough it out, sketch it on a napkin, tell a friend, and take action. Your dream begins the moment you step out in first moment of believing, and the result can touch a thousand souls. Listen to Jim Valvano: never give up, never surrender. Believe in the audacity of action and your fantastic potential for change and new opportunity.

The Hawthorne Bridge at sunrise, Portland Oregon. Photo by Joe Collver, from flickr.com
Genuine happiness and success start with an attitude of abundance

Make it a daily practice to begin your day with five minutes of thankfulness. You can even do it in your car on the way to work. Do it in your own way, whether it's thoughtful reflection or a prayer or singing out loud, but focus on your rich, amazing, abundant life.

Feeling grumpy or resentful or worried instead of thankful? Change direction! Consider the incredible gifts you have--mind, body, spirit, senses, your family, your friends, your clothes, your car, and the breakfast you enjoyed this morning. By the standards of 99% of the world, Americans are incredibly, amazingly rich. You truly have no idea how richly blessed you are until you start thinking about it. Even the heart that beats within you and the lungs that breathe your air are an intricate and amazing miracle.

Some of my favorite movies are ones that feature a once-defeated character waking up to an absolutely new day: "It's A Wonderful Life," the various versions of Dicken's "Christmas Carol" and "Groundhog Day." How exhilarating it is for George Bailey to wake up and realize his life isn't over, it's just beginning, and that today truly is a brand new day.


"It's a Wonderful Life"

"It's a Wonderful Life"
George returns home to everything he ever wanted.